10 Tips to Bounce Back After a Breakup

10 Tips to Bounce Back After a BreakupGoing through a breakup is one of the toughest things a person can ever endure in his or her life. It shatters you into many pieces and you feel you can never be whole again. Breaking up is a very difficult thing to get through and you just wonder how it is to be happy once more. You try and imagine the days when you were just happy but then again you start crying again. I have written this article to help those going through the big “B” and want to bounce back.

  1. Let it out. – When you first realize that everything is over all you can do is feel the pain and the hurt. You just want to cry or sleep all day. It’s ok. Let it out. You need to do some catharsys and let the pain out of your system. You need to release the pent up emotions. Drink some if you have to. At this point all you can think about is how painful it feels. That is normal. But do not destroy yourself in the process. You can cry, you can drink but don’t destroy yourself.
  2. Rant to your friends. – I know you may sound like a broken record for repeating the same things over and over again to your friends but trust me, you need friends who would listen to you. Friends can offer you sound advice and console you in times of great emotional stress. They can cheer you up by giving you advice or even just hanging out with you.
  3. Distract yourself. – Recovering from a heartache is much easier if you don’t remind yourself of how it once was between the two of you. Try doing things you have not done before when you were a couple because you did not have time or energy to do it. Why not go travelling solo? It is less expensive and you can now do whatever you like since you are alone. Take some art classes or learn a new language. Once you’ve cried your eyes out, it’s time to put your life together by learning to live life by yourself.
  4. Improve yourself. – Well aside from distracting yourself, you must also make yourself better. You must allow yourself to grow and be a step higher from what you once were. You have to be the man or the woman your ex would regret leaving. But improve yourself not for him or her but for your own happiness. You need to be a better person so that if ever you decide to stay single you can be happy in your own skin or if you decide to be with someone, this person will be glad to have you.
  5. Try to avoid the memories. – You may have had the best memories, but in order for your heart to move on you need to learn to let go. You need to stop thinking about him or her whenever you see something related to your time together. Stop cyber stalking him on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. It does not help. If you could unfollow him or her for a while it would be best. Because unless you learn to live apart from him or her, you will never ever learn to grow by yourself.
  6. Eat, pray, love. – Yes I got this from the movie that starred Julia Roberts. It is now time for you to discover a whole new you. You must eat to enjoy life and taste every single morsel of food with utmost anticipation. You must learn to pray and meditate and centre yourself. Learn to clear your mind and be void of any feelings. Once you have mastered this, you are on your way to recovery. And finally fall in love again. It does not have to be another person, you can fall in love with yourself. Love the life you are given. Let love surround you and who knows you might not just change your life but also change yourself.
  7. Take risks. – When you were part of a couple you probably did not want to take risks because you always considered the welfare of your partner. Well now it is high time for you to take those risks. You may want to move to a new city or travel. You may want to take a job overseas. Try dating a different sort of person. Don’t let yourself be tied down to old stuff you once knew. Learn to say yes to life.
  8. Exercise. – Many people who broke up swear that exercise has really helped them recover. Scientifically exercise releases endorphins which are happy hormones that fight pain. When you exercise you can release your stress and aggression. Bonus thing is looking look but more over you will be healthy. Being healthy and fit helps your mind stay sharp and allows you to think more clearly.
  9. Reflect. – Now that you have cried, exercised and done so many things to move on, it is time for you to reflect for the reasons why you guys broke up. Learn to accept that some people are not meant to stay in our lives. You must also accept if it was your doing or if it was your partner’s. Avoid being bitter. Be thankful that you did not spend the rest of your life miserable with each other. Reflect on the things that you have done that lead to the break up. Even if it was caused by a third party on his or her side, you might have had something to contribute to it. Find peace in your heart.
  10. Move forward. – Many people always say to “move on” but I say “MOVE FORWARD”. To move forward means that you will no longer be the same person. That you will now grow from the experience you’ve had with this person. Moving forward means that once you start dating again, you will no longer repeat the same mistakes and not dwell on the things that happened in the past. You must learn to live happily now with or without someone in your life.

Breaking up can be very painful. It causes your heart to bleed out and suffer. You feel like the world has ended and shifted and you are left behind. But recovering from a breakup can happen if you learn to move forward and live life even if you are single.

10 Things You Can Do to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

10 Things You Can Do to Make a Guy Fall in Love with YouMen can get mushy too. They may act and look tough but deep down inside they do want to be loved and cared for. They want a lady who can show them how it feels to be special and taken cared of. Most men may have a really strong façade and try to show the world that they are tough and care less about the “L” word; but deep down inside just want to find a person who can make them smile despite their busy day.

Unlike women, men are not that emotional. If ever they are they try hard not to show it. This means that they find it more difficult to admit that they are in love with someone or at times use logic to understand their emotions rather than their heart. Being logical creatures, they will try to find out if a relationship is beneficial for them or not. Even if a guy likes you, it does not mean that he is likely to fall in love with you. Men can totally differentiate love and sex from one another like the North and the South Poles of Earth.

So how do you make a guy fall for you? Simple you make him feel that you are important to him and that you indispensable. But how do you do this? That is the question. Many women struggle to make a guy fall for her but the secret is simple, so I have dished out ten simple ways to make a guy fall in love with you.

1. Don’t act like his mother – Moms are great, men specially put a special place for their moms in their hearts. You can never compete with this woman in his heart. She is the top dog of all the women in his life. But you must remember that men do not like women who scold them and push them over the edge. That was his mother’s job, not yours. Be a woman who is caring and nurturing all the time but never be too clingy and overly controlling.

2. Show him that being with you is fun – All the giddy feeling men get when they see a pretty girl do get old in time. They do get bored if a woman only talks about shoes and bags. They want girls that they can have fun with. If he runs, try putting on a pair of running shoes. You don’t have to be a pro in the same stuff he does but being someone he can share his interests with will likely spark his attention. What’s more is that you need to give him a reason for him to ditch his crew on a Saturday drinking night and spend time with you.

3. Cook for him or at least order him a pizza – The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This has been encoded in his DNA. Men like, no LOVE FOOD. If you can’t really cook try mastering at least one dish say a steak! You can watch YouTube videos to learn how to. I know that most women now believe that they should not be confined to old notions and stuff like that, but this is a sure fire way to get a man to notice you, A LOT.

4. Be mysterious – Men are hunters. They want conquest and they get bored easily if everything is laid in front of them with no need to do anything. Men like women who are angels and devils rolled into one. They don’t like women who are one faceted. Don’t text him too much, he will get tired of you. Try to be a bit of a catch. Be the girl he can’t enough of because there is something about you that he could not put his finger on. Have a life. Don’t put all your time and attention into chasing him.

5. Spend time with him – Don’t be scared that he will treat you like a buddy, yes he will be familiar with you but allow him to discover the little things about you that make you amazing. Allow him to see you with no makeup. Be the person whom he can run to in times of pain and sorrow. You can be both the girl he trusts and the girl he falls in love with. Men are likely to fall for women who they see as dependable.

6. Be yourself – Yeah this is an old, used and abused cliché but men hate fakes. Don’t act like a person who you clearly are not just to impress him. In the end if ever you make him fall for you, he will find out and detest you and vice versa.

7. Smell Nice – It has been proven that our sense of smell is directly linked with our sense of love and emotions. We associate good memories to the smells we have had, Find out what kind of scents he likes. Men normally gravitate towards the smell of vanilla since this scent links to the smell of food, which as you know men love. Try to stay away from those too overwhelming scents that make people have a hissing fit from smelling it. Too floral or too fruity scents turn men off. This scents are great if they are light and combined with other notes. Always shower and smell fresh. Keep your hair clean and smelling good.

8. Use Subtle Touches – Men clearly associate touching to sex and intimacy. They also associate this with closeness and belongingness. Touch his arm, shoulder and knee and brush your hand to his. This sends signals to his brain that you are someone who he can be close to. Men see this as being more open and that you are not defensive. Men normally fear rejection so this subtle signs do allow him to zone in more into you. On the other hand, don’t overdo it since men man see you as easy to get and cheap.

9. Be sweet – Well this is an age old secret. Men still fall for the sweet and caring girl. This is the woman who he can bring to his house and be proud to introduce to his mom and family. This is the woman who gives him small stuff like his favourite hamburger or picking up his laundry. A woman can be sweet by just offering help with his work or asking him if he also wants coffee.

10. Be sexy – Well yeah sweetness get a man but if you are sexy, you can have him in the palm of your hand any time. Men gravitate towards women who ooze sex appeal in them. You don’t need to be a size 0 to be this girl, you just have to work your assets. Wear clothes that flatter your body. Try wearing sexy shorts but a long-sleeved shirt on top. Try mixing modestly with sexiness. But remember you’re not a hooker, don’t act like one.

Getting a man to fall for you may be a difficult business but you can do it. Men are beings of logic, but they also have emotions. They also long for love and you have to show him that you are that girl that he has to fall in love with. I hope my tips has helped you out!